Calm is a skill, not a personality trait

Calm isn't a temperament you were born with. It isn't "I got lucky" or "he's just like that." It's a skill. More precisely — the skill of filtering out what doesn't require your response. And like any skill — it can be trained. Anyone who thinks "I can't be calm" just hasn't started training yet. 90% of the things you currently burn emotional energy on don't require anything from you. Someone wrote something in the comments. Someone did something differently than you would have. A driver didn't let you merge. The weather turned bad. The currency tanked. It's noise — it doesn't demand a reaction, it just exists. A trained person distinguishes "this is a signal that needs a response" from "this is noise that needs to be ignored." An untrained person reacts to every little thing and burns out by lunchtime. Training calm doesn't mean sitting in the lotus position. It's asking yourself, every time something gets to you: "Does this really require my response, or can I simply not react?" In 90% of cases, the answer is the second one. Say it out loud. Don't respond. And the next time, the same thing. And again. A year from now you'll watch someone lose it over something that was making you lose it six months ago — and you won't understand how you ever lived that way. That's the skill. The strength isn't in reacting faster. The strength is in not reacting at all — when no reaction is needed.